I've been constantly asking myself that question. What is a relationship? What is it that constitutes a relationship? What makes a man and a woman to decide to commit to each other? What makes the opposite attracts each other in the first place?
We are currently living in a fast paced technology world where everything speeds up, patience run thin and expectations are high. Do we still have the normal dates where guy picks girl up from home, "interview" with the parents, bring girl out for dinner with flowers and send her home by midnight, and steal a kiss by the door before the father opens the door? Do we still have a conventional date? And what are the dating rules now? Sex on the first date? Sex on the third date? No sex till marriage? Is there still a first date?
The dating rules have changed over the years. Where once the guy will ask the girl to be his girlfriend, with the same serious face as proposal. Now, its a chance meeting in a bar, dancing together, chugging down shots, more dancing and then, a kiss and you leave the bar holding hands, exchanging phone numbers, loads of flirty sms-es and viola, next date will be a romp in bed. And then, moving in together and before you know it, they are together for donkey months. When they finally decided to get married, they'll divorce within months of the marriage. Does that sound familiar to you? Has it happened to someone you know or you yourself?
So what makes a relationship last? Are there clear and set rules? Fundamentally, what is a relationship?
We are currently living in a fast paced technology world where everything speeds up, patience run thin and expectations are high. Do we still have the normal dates where guy picks girl up from home, "interview" with the parents, bring girl out for dinner with flowers and send her home by midnight, and steal a kiss by the door before the father opens the door? Do we still have a conventional date? And what are the dating rules now? Sex on the first date? Sex on the third date? No sex till marriage? Is there still a first date?
The dating rules have changed over the years. Where once the guy will ask the girl to be his girlfriend, with the same serious face as proposal. Now, its a chance meeting in a bar, dancing together, chugging down shots, more dancing and then, a kiss and you leave the bar holding hands, exchanging phone numbers, loads of flirty sms-es and viola, next date will be a romp in bed. And then, moving in together and before you know it, they are together for donkey months. When they finally decided to get married, they'll divorce within months of the marriage. Does that sound familiar to you? Has it happened to someone you know or you yourself?
So what makes a relationship last? Are there clear and set rules? Fundamentally, what is a relationship?
2 comments:
relationship comes from the word relation + ship. means relation developed while on the ship. the ship destination is to paradise. some ship went thru big waves and thunderstorm and survived, some got sunk like titanic, some got hijacked along the way. some didnt reached their destination and stop but some went to another destination instead.
so, its all abt ship. need more info just call jack sparrow.
Arrr mateys, weigh anchor all hands. Prepare to make sail.
I'm compelled to write to this
I'm a traditionalist. I view relationship as something more than a follow up from a bar/club/etc. Basically all I'm saying is, relationship is more than sex and pleasure.
What makes the opposite attracts each other in the first place? It's a mixture of random hormone shots, some empowering, some subtly blend into your body system. It's called love. Being in a relationship will bring you to this state of mind. I live by only 2 rules; limitations and give-and-take. Limit what you should do when you're in a relationship so that in a marriage, at least, there are something to look forward to. Give-and-take, I don't think there's a need to explain why this is important.
Just a 2 cents' worth of view from a traditionalist :)
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