The Singles Bane

There are times where I really don't get what is wrong with ticking the singles check box in a form? I'm not married neither do I want to be at this stage in life. I'm happily dating someone although its long distance, but it does have its pros and cons to it. I'm happy being single and independent without depending on any guy. But ask anyone, my mom included, they would tell me its better to have a man to take care of you and bla bla bla... If I want someone to take care of me being a reason to get married, I find that sad. Might as well I look for a maid, I'm pretty sure they can take good care of me as well. I'm looking for a partner not someone to take care of me. I want someone to share my thoughts, my views, my ups and downs, and my future.

Sometimes, its not that wrong to tick the single checkbox. But I've been receiving more than enough invites to be part of some speed dating or dating groups. Do all of us need to put ourselves out there to get someone in our lives? I've seen most couples who suddenly become a "we" and there is no more individuality between the two of them. They seem to have lost who they are. Its pretty sad to me. Does it mean, if at this point in time, I don't have a boyfriend, I would be incomplete and should be looked down upon? Its pretty funny as I've had friends and colleagues alike asking me if they should set me up on blind dates.

Even now that I'm dating someone, it would be when are you getting married. Now this rile me up, is there really a need to get married at 27??? I'm at the happiest moment of my life. I have financial independence, free, ability to do anything. Yet, I'm being asked to settle down with another person and try to work things out. For now, thank you very much, but I'm actually happy with how the way things are now. Settling down? Not now my dear. I've still got loads to do before I can be another guy's equal.

Updates

Its been awhile since I've last updated my blog. I've quit my job in a company that I know I will miss. I went to explore a bit of the western world. Got sick, came home, got better, started work at another company and now I'm back online and up to speed with the world.

Its surprising when you are traveling that time seems immaterial and the things that happened around the world doesn't impact you at all. That's how I felt when I was in Turkey. I went out without a watch, time was really immaterial. The only thing that matters was when I can get my tummy filled, my skin to soak up as much rays as I could. The world went by fine without me acknowledging its presence. Sometimes ignorance can be bliss. The only major news I can't runaway from was Michael Jackson's death. Seems like even in death, his funeral and memorial can be turned into a showcase. Amazing....

I did some traveling to Western Europe with a week in Akbuk, Turkey. Looks like we have found a home in Turkey. Somehow, we made the place in Turkey seems like home after spending 5 days doing the place up and making it comfortable to stay in. It seems funny that we travel halfway round the world to meet up and make a place to call home. But I must admit, in the 5 days we had there, we did a pretty good job of making that place home. There is still more that needs to be done but I guess that can wait till the next time we are there. Maybe in another 6-9 months.

I had some time in London, Paris, Brussels and Amsterdam. Of all those places, I love London the most. Its not the cleanest city I've been to, neither is it the best city in terms of infrastructure. But there is something charming about the mix mash of the old and new in London that captivates me. Paris was beautiful, Brussels was charming and Amsterdam was liberal. But nothing compares to London. Its just a city that captivates and you can find yourself being sucked into the world there. Maybe there is some Harry Potter magic in the London air.

I wish I can blog more but I'm sleepy now... Will try another day... Want to capture my thoughts on Turkey and how it is compared to the western world.